Easy to become a BAAP but difficult to be a "BETA"!

India is a country where Bapa is above all and after that, the Baap comes everywhere, somehow the word Beta has been very much demeaning by Anil Kapoor with the Dhak-Dhak karne laga and his antiques are more or less of a person with saliva dropping from the mouth and looking towards the girl with those notorious ways which cannot be explained rather than understood. On the contrary, the perfect image played by Sri Shashi Kapoor in various films from Waqt till Deewar reminded of the quintessential Beta who could go any miles to help the mother.

The problem is that Sri Shashi Kapoor Ji who was always in the heart of the millions could not come up as a better reminder because of his soft image but certainly is a man to be given much of the value in the system as he always tried to keep his image more of a cleaner one. Now, coming to the statement which is all about it is easy to become a BAAP but difficult to be a "Beta" as the samaj always tries to give a second hand thought to the beta however good he is towards his duty and responsibilities. It is said that the beta or the son's real thought comes in when he shows hos responsibilities towards the sasural or the wife's house rather than his own home which is not true.

In fact, the son has to set his home first in order and look after the own mother first rather than the sasural which has in many cases more of an image of a trouble maker in life. The sasural or the in-law's house is to be taken care of by the woman as prima facie she has seen the motives of the mother and behavior of her father which is to be better understood by her. The more a person gets attached towards the sasural the more difficult his life becomes. Most of the people in life has become a middle class these days and the others have shifted to the upper-class mode and the lower class exists much in the name rather than being called a class. So, life is all about rich and super-rich so most of the time the rich ones, when they try to become super rich, feels to annex the rich one's first in large numbers whether it is to get their homes, property or many other things in life.

So, with the families becoming micro in the context where the man becomes bore by earning his livelihood and by retirement by better and greener pastures the woman in homestays confined to be alone or the mercy of a son or daughter. Now, here comes the problem as a woman in her 50's and 60's are facing much of the difficulties as in earlier cases people use to marry an old man to get his property now the same has happened with the older woman. The wicked ones try to overpower the old woman and then loving ways are far easier to get into the mold to earn her ways to acquire the property and then take advantage of her life and money in every possible way.

So, here-in comes to the role of the beta in a bigger way where he has to understand that after serving the son for so many years the mother herself is the property of his for the first and the next one in life is the material possessions. So, it is his duty to protect the mother as well as her valuables and at times if he is strict towards her is not counted in the deeds of God but the supreme power understands it better about the internal relationship rather than the superficial ones. Everyone is not a Sainik or a Border Security force person that he has to defend his borders but every one of us has to defend not only our own existence but also of the mother who is more vulnerable these days rather than the young girls. The person in you has to understand the social and react rather than go in flow with the society who always try to demean you first by making mockery and once you are not into their limitations and a personality of your own drifts away from you by showing glances of respect and in certain cases talking positively after which you still do not have to slacken but the ruthless nature of yours becomes compassionate and you start loving others by remaining at safe distance!