Self-esteem that is the one word which governs every educated male or female in life at recent times or in the ancient past as well. There are times when your own family members or siblings surpasses every other aspect in life to become something which can be considered a miracle. In the best of the cases the person could be a leader just for the example if I would like to reiterate the name then it has to be Manoj Tiwari or many others who are close to me in a very personal relationship.
With the affinity towards the Ara in Bihar which was a place where my great Grandfather was once upon a time posted as a head of the department in Employment Exchange and I go there like a kid who was below 5 years old my hobnobbing with that small tinsel town was quite as a kid who was curious towards life of people speaking Bhojpuri and although born and bought up at a model city of the then Bihar which was Bokaro Steel City where my father was into Bokaro Steel Plant still the affinity with Ara was something different.
Later, in the years as the life gear changed the Lovingly Chitranjan Babu went to higher strides of life and as it happens with every grandson I took into a molding of my own. With a family which is almost into every aspect from an educationist to a restaurant owner and cook chef along with many another aspect of life it's nothing more than a transformation and the person behind it or the female deity to be given much bigger name is all the Hindu Goddesses just like The Kali, Durga and Saraswati along with not to forget the wealthiest one being Laxmi jee.
Since time immemorial my house has the moral aspect of worshipping the Goddess in every form and none of the people in our family take to abusive ways rather than respect and self-respect being the two main aspects of life. Now, coming back to the point of "Being a burden in the relationship of an iconic person destroys your Self-esteem" is quite evident in our family as since the person who has got the highest of the position in our family whether it is the grandfather or my own father Mr. Upendra Vidyarthi the only thing which he has taught is that one has to find his own abilities in life rather than getting before someone who is near to us and maybe with foray into politics run behind him or her to ask for the job or social security of any kind in life.
As it happens with people of Bihar that if one person who gets into politics 99% of his family members start running behind him for small needs and thus do not give him a chance to breathe in life. If we see the example of Lalu Yadav's family or Jagannath Mishra's family they lost the foothold into politics after getting too much higher aspect as their own family members including the brother in laws along with many other took to destroying them from inside and thus people like Tejaswi has to face a severe backlash.
Also, the constituency to which a family member may be of yours belongs he personally cannot look after every home rather than he would like to develop the constituency. If you will go to meet any leader maybe from your own family members he could ask his Personal Assistant to look after you as he may be towards some other works in life which are rather more important which gives the thought in your mind asking for a more of a begging which is rather not justified in these days when one could improve on their own. Also, with media being active only in a narcissist way and try to pull down the likes of Jayalalitha and many others have to face prosecution for providing benefit to their family members.
In this way, if one looks towards the current workforce of BJP it is doing a commendable job by not giving any personal benefits through its leaders like Smt. Shushma Swaraj or Smriti Irani including the young stalwarts like Nupur Sharma and the iron lady Miss Nirmala Sitharaman which shows that they are championing the cause of benefitting the poor and the needy rather than passing big bucks to their own family members which make them stand apart in the crowd.
So, it is always good to carry your own self-esteem and first prove before your family members with your capabilities and then beg from them rather than standing in the queue of million others who try to get into the path either in the name of coming from the same constituency, village, town or the friendship status and further ruin your own life as well as theirs and thus continue with the social backlash which in any case the part and parcel of "Being Human" and above all "Being Indian".