Your Neighbourhood shapes your career or breaks it

It is true that your school and upbringing helps in shaping your education and bring out the best in you. But what about the time which you spend at home and then find the right way to grow in life. Since I have come out from a city which was more of an industrial belt rather than a cosmopolitan city I could share the pangs of how the society does the justice and injustice with you at times and how much of the indulgence is needed in life.

From a middle-class upbringing where education was very much a necessity and the food was in abundant whether it was the veg or non-veg as the family rather belong to an upper middle class where the grandparents were as rich or a notch above the parents along with the proud feeling associated with somewhat a legacy which was not so maintained in an authentic manner as the family has its own rule of individual achievement rather than showing things as a family tree, things were soon coming out to be getting scattered and as a male member I personally could feel more or less of all the mishappenings such as some major and minor accident associated with the family whether at workplace or homefront.

Now, if anyone can take a clue out of my life book, my education was completely into English Medium background and the family was small with only one sister and me along with my father and mother while the grandparents have given enough freedom to the newly discovered small family syndrome which was coming up and engulfing India during the early '80s. So, now if I would like to put some light on the headline "Your neighborhood shapes your career or breaks it" it is quite obvious that all those who stay at rented accommodation or the government accommodation has to change their homes and move from one place to another either in the same city or sometimes the duty is transferrable. 

I fortunately during the earlier years of my life saw three major home changes, where the family has nothing big in terms of show off but had enough for all the basic necessities which lead to a simple living high thinking lifestyle as father was a great foodie and at the same time very humble in nature, so much so that the most of the time used to cook food for the guest who use to come at home during week offs as he was an employee of Bokaro steel plant. the Bokaro steel city.

He certainly does not have any air around him but at the same time I gathered some air as I was more close to my Grandfather during my earlier days and he used to be very hefty and with iron fist attitude although humble at the same time but had gathered respect from all corners of society because of his less indulgence nature and more of a social person as he never differentiated between the small caste people or Mohammadens and I would like to mention his name who is called Chitranjan Babu or the Mr. Chitranjan Prasad jee.

Now, talking about my father Mr. Upendra Vidyarthi, he was a handsome lad with a great bod and was an apple of an eye for all the woman and girls either in the society or in his in-laws family and also in the office or plant where he use to work, still he did not have any airs attached around him. Since he was the smartest person so all those Bhumihars and Rajputs including Brahmins who were not so happy with his handsome presence somehow tried to dissect my family in the same way which you can compare with the movie "Shakti" which was Amitabh Bachchan superhit movie although I never went against my father wish and was very much loyal towards him.

So, now talking about the neighborhood my early days at Sector 3-C, 45 was great and I use to play with my sister and my dog "Moti" who was a brown color Indian breed dog. After the school, use to get over I use to get back and the homely feeling attached with no bad bent of mind use to bring good achievements in school and also with the neighbors and there was no such fight as the studies were going great and apart from some minor incidents things were going well in life. 

After, some formative years the home got shifted to Sector 12 and still the life was going great in terms of studies as till Class 7, I was an above average student with somewhat less interest in mathematics which was most of the time the bone of contention with my parents as they wanted me to be stronger on the Science and Maths stream with no purpose to make me an Engineer Babu but for the overall scorecard to get good remarks at parents teacher meeting which was done at every three months in our school, Holy Cross.

Now, the third and the last shift in the home was at Sector 6-D, 2528 where the things started taking an ugly turn as I was going through adolescent(easily boiled up behavior) and high testosterone level still not an interest towards having sex with any pretty girl in the neighborhood as most of them were going through convent education and my beautiful sister was also getting young but fortunately with stout Hindu upbringing and an Indian mindset I never dared to cross the line with any girls apart from some social banters which I received rather than giving it back as I was too shy to reply back to elder woman of the society.

So, to conclude one could say that one has to understand the way a child behaves towards his subjects in the curriculum and try to avoid slangs as in today's world since the early childhood the child has to listen to all kinds of demeaning words whether in the society which may relate to their parents or maybe their girlfriends which come at an easy manner these days to even children of young age. The only thing needs to be done is that do not coax them to share their thoughts but rather be sure about their social presence and also the kind of friendship they do have in their life.

A person at any cost should not indulge in the child girlfriend or boyfriend which is like giving a better piece of yours to them however tempted you to feel and keep it for the better days in life as if there are any chances to get that pretty one she or he may come up but do not lay him or her in front of your child. This is a very big statement which needs to be understood as it creates a very bad impact on the mind of children in the long run.

So, give them enough freedom to understand the world but define the social status which is like to say that do not become Shiney Ahuja who could run behind a maid and at the same time do not be a Gulshan Grover who could go any extent for a girl and rather take the path of a person with some moral behaviour to carry on with a good character and then for helping them with love there are many like-minded woman and men for which a person does not have to stand out of the gated society!